© 2018 Tina DeMatteo


Projecting False Perceptions

People project what they believe to be true based on their perceptions and limiting beliefs and these projections are not always based on facts. We are conditioned as children to take on the beliefs of our parents, caregivers, preachers, teachers, etc. and we can hold onto those beliefs so tightly. These perceptions flow into our everyday encounters and we can project what we think and believe to be true, without even inquiring and evaluating facts.

Our false perceptions can hurt other people when we do not step into a conversation with complete awareness or respect for the emotions of another individual. We can change our old beliefs at any time, plus learn that we all have different perspectives to consider. We can start by asking questions to understand facts. Then, ask more questions for further clarity, instead of just expressing thoughtless judgment onto others.

Many people often talk before they think and do not consider feelings or take into account the facts of the current or back-story of others. Details are important to consider for building emotional awareness for everyone. We can all get emotionally triggered throughout life, as we all carry emotional pain from our past. We have to become aware of our emotional triggers, acknowledge and process the pain that comes up, communicate it for clarity and clear it out of our energy field.

We can let the poor awareness of others affect us in every area of our lives. We may default back into how we have learned to express our emotions in the past and it can create a lot of pain and conflict within. These feelings have to be processed quickly. We cannot hang onto hurt feelings, as they can turn into resentment and can negatively impact our health.

A good exercise is to think of how we judge and what we think of certain people, situations, neighborhoods, ethnicities and whatever else that we have learned that these people, places and things are a certain way. Go over what the belief is and then give at least three reasons why this is true and three reasons why the belief is not true—or why it may be true in certain circumstances and not in others. Do this exercise with a complete open-heart and be honest with the answers that come up.

We can also project our feelings because something about the conversation or situation is subconsciously difficult for us to take on personally. We may have past trauma in connection with the subject area or something similar that has been traumatic for us to contend with in our personal life. We all have our own feelings around particular circumstances, but we cannot forget to take into account the feelings of the others around us when we express our thoughts on the matter.

When we are personally bothered with something, we can take a deep breath and become aware of and acknowledge our feelings. In this place of stillness, we can learn to discern what are our feelings, what are facts and what are the feelings of others. Then, after we are clear on our feelings and the facts, we can then move forward with further thoughts and conversations.

We can change our beliefs at any moment and we can start with opening up to awareness, being more compassionate and not allowing ourselves to falsely project limiting beliefs onto others. We need to leave shame out of the equation and treat everyone as a human being that deserves respect and truth—not false conditioned beliefs. We are all emotional beings that can take on emotional pain that can negatively affect our health. Let us be there for one another and become happier as a society together.

*There are often misunderstandings between the words perception and perspective. Here are a few definitions extracted from Google definitions with editing that can clear up the confusion.

•Perception: The ability to see, hear or become aware of something

•Perspective: A point of view

•Projection: The unconscious transfer of one’s desires or emotions onto another person

•Judgment: The ability to make considered decisions or come to sensible conclusions

An opinion or conclusion

Judgments are often based on a limited perspective and lack of facts, so it is important that we understand the truth, build emotional awareness, and consider the feelings of others.